In this picture, the bank teller is conditionally loyal to the robber (as long as the gun is pointed and the risk of getting killed exists, the teller will comply with all demands)… however as soon as the opportunity arises.. (we’ve all seen the movies) someone will press the alarm.
Well the fucked up thing is.. conditional loyalty exists in relationships/bootycalls/game.
It is very important to realize when someone is “conditionally loyal to you” (almost always) versus “really loyal”(very rare). Understanding this allows you to get and maintain what you want.. (aka.. girl is only with you for your 6 pack abs.. better make sure to hit the gym if you want to keep her around.. etc)
girls will often say things like “I love you” or other emotionally charged statements.. A dumbass guy would see this as “wow she really loves me.. this girl is loyal to me.. things are great.. “
the smart player would think : “Okay.. she thinks she loves me right now.. but thats only because of x,y,z.. until she finds something better… how can I take advantage of this?”
The truth of the matter is… there is a sexual market in which people are constantly trading each other.
There is no such thing as real loyalty.. everything in game is conditional.. which begs the question… What makes you different from any other person?
Think about it.. that girl you’re with (dating, fucking, w/e) .. shes obviously with you (and not some other guy) for a reason..
it’s probably because you have acceptable value to her ( good body, social status, income, etc),
But what happens when your value shifts.. (you lose your job, put on a few pounds, piss off her friends, etc)… exactly.. thats when the real loyalty( or lack thereof) will show..
how solid most relationships are (your turn)
You are still the same person right? Just because your value has changed doesn’t mean your identity has.
At this point, it becomes obvious that relationships (booty calls and casual sex included) are built upon the shifting and unstable foundations of value and perception.
Another example would be when a girl dates a guy for a long period of time (lets say 2 years) and then one day meets a more interesting guy and breaks up w/ her bf… obviously it wasn’t real loyalty right.. just conditional..
dont worry- shes just sending a few innocent flirty text messages to some guy "friends" at work.. you can trust her.. after all.. shes loyal right?
understanding game concepts is important so you don’t invest too much in a girl and get burned. In fact, most relationships fail when the conditions of loyalty change.
See thats the fucked up thing.. if you really think about it.. loyalty is meaning and if there is no such thing as real loyalty then there is no such thing as real meaning.. as in.. a guy could easily be replaced by some other guy with similar or better qualifications. (and this happens all the time.. even married women participate in the sexual market and trade up.)
Thats definitely something to think about eh?
Thanks for reading
November 17th, 2010 at 4:03 pm
This is all just a part of human behavior. I think what killed me with my boyfriend is how he always expected me to be cheating; and lied and manipulated my family and me to try to control me. Recently he’s been trying to blackmail me.
In nature a lot of male animals try to ensure female loyalty via mate guarding. ALWAYS protecting his mate when she’s fertile. The main source of male to female aggression and violence is humans is a result of sexual loyalty.
November 17th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Great post.
Me and my friends have a saying: “Everyone’s a whore.”
Even if you got a great job, what if someone came along and offered you 20k more with the same hours? Almost everyone would take it.
It’s rare to encounter a girl with real loyalty nowadays.
With some of my guy friends and my family however there is real loyalty, they could be broke, unemployed, in jail, fucked up, whatever, I would bail them out.
One thing I’ve come to terms with is when in any kind of dating relationship, it is very very rare to have true loyalty, but it’s not just the girls it’s all of us its human nature.
November 17th, 2010 at 11:50 pm
There is no such thing as unconditional love.
Options determine loyalty. If she has more options than me, she will probably cheat (or at least entertain the thought). And vice versa.
Such is human nature. Nothing to get upset about, just take note of it and act accordingly.
November 18th, 2010 at 12:05 am
Yeah this definitely goes along with the no such thing as love in general (since its a chemical reaction)
I was questioning LTR’s in this post
November 21st, 2010 at 10:48 am
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February 21st, 2012 at 6:03 pm
Man I just started reading all ur blogs and I gotta say I love the knowledge ur dropping regarding game, I’m deff using all this to my advantage since I feel I have become a beta since I lost my job
March 19th, 2012 at 11:39 am
Excellent post. Good stuff.