The power of mystery..

Warning: partial(tasteful) female nudity in this post. if you are under 18 or 21 or easily offended by naked girls… whatever just don’t read it.

Reader JT posted a few interesting questions in the comments:

“what are your thoughts when the girl mentions ‘the boyfriend’ while she’s getting intimate with you?

I try not to see it as a reflection of the girl or the guy, but as a reflection of their relationship.

However, now I just feel bad for these dudes getting cheated on. Thoughts?”

On one hand, we all want to believe that we are better than one another.. “Yeah i’m better than her boyfriend she will like me more, [insert ego here].” This way of thinking makes it okay to cheat.. after all.. if its with me its not really cheating, right?

Well see.. thats great and all but.. what happens when the tables turn and shes cheating ON you instead of WITH you.

like you will be that guy blowing up her phone with the “I love you’s” and “I miss you’s”.. thats when it really feels like shit. (I know most guys reading this blog would never make rookie mistakes like this.. but the point stands)

No guy would ever turn down sex just because a girl has a boyfriend unless he is good friends with the guy or afraid of getting his ass kicked.

If I find out a girl has a boyfriend, Yeah i’ll still sleep with her, but I won’t feel particularly good about it. Her value will drop in my eyes because I will immediately know she is not girlfriend/wife/mother material (not that i’d get married but its nice when a girl has that potential instead of just.. “i’d never do this with her”) Seeing a girl cheat would make me think “well..how different could I be from her boyfriend(after numerous girls cheat with you.. its obvious that its not a problem with the relationship but just something the girl wants to do)… that could be me shes cheating on in 6 months”.

As far as the reflection of their relationship- a relationship doesn’t have to be bad for a girl to cheat.

Lots of times a relationship just represents a drug to a girl.. she will stay in it as long as she can get high.. as long as those chemicals are flowing (this usually represents the first 6 months).. or until something better comes along. When the happiness brought by the relationship fades.. the real strength of the bond is revealed. It isn’t the relationship that keeps the girl with the guy, but rather the happy feelings that she feels. Those happy feelings are easily transferable to any other guy that can get her excited. We all want to believe in love, loyalty, and happily ever after.. but its painfully obvious (50% divorce rate.. etc) that we’ve been lied to.

Personally, I think girls are programmed to sleep with as many qualified guys as possible. Obviously if your value is high enough the girl will want to sleep with you, regardless of her marriage/beliefs/relationship status.

Also, lots of girls just get bored of their relationships because the chemicals fade. (It’s actually been proven that love is not real.. but rather a chemical release in the brain that takes place in 1/5th of a second). When they meet a mysterious guy that gets the excitement flowing again…. of course they wanna get high again (sex will happen).

the problem is; things don’t really last..

you can’t be that guy forever..

the way I see it..

Enjoy a girl for 6 months max and then just let it go. Be happy it happened, find a new girl, and work on yourself in the meantime!

hope that answers your question  JT

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