The subtleties of Asking Vs Telling.

Asking is not the same thing as Telling.

Questions are very different from statements.

An example of a weak needy vibe:

“So uhh.. do you wanna hang out this week?” or “when are you free, sweetheart?” or “would you like to do xyz?”

(girl instinctively changes subject because she isn’t sure)

(you ask again five mins later-without realizing this)

“did u want to come over?”

(she gives an excuse- or worse, she flakes)

Constantly asking girls things reinforces beta behavior. Sure she will comply with some things but when she doesn’t comply your value will drop like a rock off the cliff. This doesn’t even have to be in the same day. Lets say you’ve asked a girl to hang out once but you’ve done this 4 times and shes said no. The constant act of asking reinforces a beta behavior – a sign of neediness – it makes you easy – it puts her in the power position- its a mistake-  and it fucks up the vibe.

Im sure lots of my readers are going to be like hmm wtf.. I always ask girls questions.. how am I going to change this?

look for subtleties in the way you talk:

examples of telling:

take your panties off instead of (can I take ur panties off)

(girl:why?)

because it feels better that way

2. Yeah I’m not sure what my plans are tonight (suggesting you 2 can hang out)

(yeah we should hang out..) or (hmmm im busy tonight too)

Bring a movie.

instead of “do you want to hang out??” you say something like “we should go do xyz sometime” and gauge a response.

there is a fine line between a smart,strong statement and a pushy/ridiculous one that won’t work. You will have to use your own judgement sometimes.

Example of a txt that works with a girl you’ve got basic compliance (already banged) with:

“I want you on my dick soon.. it feels good”

the girl will usually say something like “what??” or “wow” or “haha” or “lets hang out tonight”

if she questions it just don’t respond until she says something else.. cus that would be a mistake (trying to defend your statement.. )

an example of a pushy/too direct statement;

“we’re going to dinner tonight at 9. [do xyz]“

some people think think that statement would be alpha.. After all, you are in the commanding position, telling her what she should do.. Unfortunately, it comes across as pushy and forces a direct decision that might make you look bad.

What do you do when she says.. “sorry I’ve already got plans” — the statement gives away your intentions too easily.

if you say something like “we should hang out sometime” and she says “sorry I’ve already got plans tonight”

you can easily say something like “Yeah, I gotta do [random exciting thing] tonight too” or just something simple like “cool”.

The most powerful telling statements are the ones that have plausible deniability.

consider the following:

“I want you…”

(girl says Omg!? and starts assuming things.. “you’re so dirty” blah blah)

“… to do my laundry”

“… to grab me a breakfast sandwich at [place]“

“… to fuck me”

“… to stop talking to me”

see it could be any one of those.. You say something.. get a reaction.. and tailor your next response to smoothly flow with what she says.

If she is DTF(down to fuck) you capitalize

if not, you slow things down a bit.. txt her later on

 

Txt msg game is an extremely solid way to get what you want