Testing the waters… The importance of Calibration

This is what happens when you don't test the waters

Typically text game structure goes like this: ( note that lowering your standards will increase girl compliance percentages)

you: hey [name you made up for her]… how you feelin (or any other opener)

the girl will give 1 answer out of a ton of possibilities. (i’ll illustrate a few )

her: no answer (70% chance)

maybe her phone died.. maybe she hates you… maybe shes at her boyfriends house who knows..

what should you do? while you can’t tell her interest level directly.. you can indirectly assume that she isn’t crazy in love and head over heels for you.. if that were the case she would have been all over that text. I would definitely wait for a few days to a week before texting again .. just hang tight and wait it out.

her: hey baby!! things are great here.. how bout you? lets get together sometime this week (3% chance)

doesn’t take a genius to realize this is a good answer.. you still have to play it aloof and keep her chasing but you should definitely reward her for this answer… there is plenty of interest.. make it happen

her: hey im okay. u? (27% chance)

this answer doesn’t tell us much.. its pretty standard… it could mean she is just trying to be polite or it could be her way to show interest.. it depends on the girl.. what do we do? test again with something else..

me: just got back from a flight in LA.. I hate jet lag.. (random statement to see if she will follow up)

okay you see what I did there with that text… she doesn’t have to answer.. theres no question and no social pressure… she is free to do what she wants but the way she reacts (and she will) will clarify the situation.

her: oh wow.. you travel a lot. thats so hot! take me with you next time? (most answers won’t be like this.. just an example)

or

her: no answer (not very interested in you)

or

her: yeah I love airplanes.. [blah blah blah] (random answer she didn’t have to type out.. why is she doing this?)

her interest level isn’t crazy high but she definitely wants to continue the conversation… maybe she is bored or maybe she really wants you.. keep testing.

like I said.. this is an art form.. the better you get.. the more success you will have.

Now of course there are a million possibilities.. but the logic in breaking them down is the same.

notice that in each example… you “test the waters” using a plausibly deniable statement (in this case you were seeing how receptive she was to your opener). The girl then responded or ignored you giving the information required and based on that you calibrate the appropriate answer to her (sometimes you test further).

If you don’t do this in your game right now you are relying on luck and value (good looks, money, etc) and eventually it will blow up in your face.

The problem with luck? It doesn't last

the rule is that everything has to be slight and has to have plausible deniability. For example.. you don’t test the waters by saying “Will you have sex with me?” or “are you still coming over?” because even if the girl would have she won’t answer that correctly.. it will come off needy and if she wasn’t going to it will make things awkward. Instead.. you have to be subtle by introducing a little bit of sexual tension and talk to see how she reacts..  like balancing 2 weights on a scale.. takes a lot of dexterity to be able to do this but it pays…

its not this hard.. lol

Check this statement out..

me: Party at baller apt on [address] .. You bring the pizza and beer il make sure Paul is there.

This statement could be a joke.. it could completely mean nothing.. at the same time.. it will test her and her reaction will be legit. Its also an offer for sex and to have her come over.. but its not needy– amazin eh (girls love to play text games.. and if you can keep up with the best of them you will get those lays)

one time I said this to a girl as a total RSS (reaction seeking statement) meaning I wasn’t planning on following through and she replied something like “okay but I have work till 9.. see u tonight”

my room was trashed.. laundry wasn’t even done.. and I was still hungover.

my answer: “Shit.. the cops are here- they said im not allowed to party as hard anymore… = /”

her: Oh okay.. What are you doing next week?

there are many solutions to a problem.. you just gotta be creative.

(heres an urban legend)

When NASA first started sending up astronauts, they quickly discovered that ballpoint pens would not work in zero gravity. To combat the problem, NASA scientists spent a decade and $12 billion to develop a pen that writes in zero gravity, upside down, underwater, on almost any surface including glass and at temperatures ranging from below freezing to 300 degrees Celsius.

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The Russians used a pencil.

there are many ways to test girls:

1. silence. (see if she feels pressure and keeps talking)

2. take your time (make her sweat things to see how awkward and nervous she is feeling)

3. Random statements or IoI’s/Iod’s

4. what.. you think im going to give away all the secrets? (haha.. the list is pretty limitless though)

anyways..

game  is full of patterns that will happen over and over such as:

pattern 1 : Girl is all over you.. chasing you hard.. wants to meet up/etc (guaranteed lay if you play aloof)

pattern 2: Girl doesn’t want anything to do with you.. is ignoring you.. one word answers (unlikely prospect use txt game)

but sometimes you won’t know what to do.

this is a great opportunity to test the water.. come up with something plausibly innocent and throw it out there.

watch what happens..make a note..

I'd hit it

Sometimes theres a girl that does both things.. one minute she wants you and is all over you but the next minute shes busy with something else. This is where you have to be extra careful because it could go both ways depending on how you react to her and the things you do. If you are really smooth with escalating and calibrating she might be willing to sleep with you. [prev post on escalation] Testing and calibration are necessary to tell if its right to escalate or if you should hold back.. (unless of course you can predict the future and read minds.. in which case I need you to email me the winning mega-millions numbers for the following 4 fridays)

problem with calibration is this: you dont know what you can and can’t get away with unless you do this sort of thing regularly and you have lots of experience with people and social situations. The best way to improve is to get your hands dirty… At the same time.. if you are new to this idea.. start small. I will be writing a follow up post to this one.

the beauty of calibration is that you can see where you stand without losing any value… free information (and knowledge is power)

Remember.. its not 100% certain but its pretty damn close… and with numbers like that.. can you really afford to not test girls? (and tailor your reactions to their interest levels)

Its just like poker.. you got a pair of jacks and some guy makes it $50 to go preflop. You could call his raise and sit there not knowing where you stand after the flop pretty much hoping to get lucky or you can buy some information. You raise his ass to $150… the guy hesitates for a second and folds.. there you go.. all the information you needed- he didn’t have a great hand.. or.. The guy reraises you to $400. (yeah hes probably got you crushed with KK or better)…

girls are the same way..

Sometimes you just get f'd