Life is a coin flip (perception)

a lot of times.. when I have a decision that isn’t very important I will flip a coin. for example, picking between Chinese food or a slice of pizza.

or.. should I take the highway or the back-roads to get to [random house party] stuff like that. or.. im at the bar.. should my next drink (paid for by the girl) be a captain and coke (5$) or a long island iced tea (15$).

Yeah.. it landed on the long island.. can’t believe the girl paid for it. I felt like a prostitute later that night. She probably felt like she deserved me tho.. damn

over time.. I started flipping the coin for more and more things – it got really fascinating.

I know it sounds stupid.. like oh man a coin.. big deal fifty-fifty. The element of chance is surprisingly seductive.

Soon it was

heads I sleep with [girl] tails I sleep with [her friend] (assuming there is only time for one)

(damn.. her friend had a great ass but.. shes got a cute face)

there would be days when I wanted a certain outcome but I flipped the coin and it said something else.

of course I could do whatever I wanted.. but I decided to go with the coin just for fun. It made things more exciting

One time I went to a restaurant and there was this cute girl there who I met at a house party. I’ve known this girl for a while.. but she wasn’t very important to me.

The girl I was seeing at the time was with me and we were about to leave when flirt-face (she would like lick her lips at me) decided to ask me a question.

So Paul.. “do you think you could give me a ride home?” (she knew I was dropping the other girl off first). She also lived far away and im not sure how she got to the place we were at or if she even had a ride home. I asked her if she felt lucky.. she said yes with a big smile.

I handed her a penny.

“Go ahead and flip it so it lands on the table…heads i’ll drive you home.. tails im leaving you here” I said to her with a smirk.

She flipped it.

(oh snap).

She looked at me and said.. “are you serious” to which I replied “god doesn’t want me to give you a ride home.. its obvious” (I was just being a smartass)

she looked at my girl as if to say “please make him give me a ride” .. my girl just shrugged(yeah girls can be brutal). we left.

Later that month- I thought she hated me but I got a txt message from her.. “hey, wanna go grab a vanilla chai(tea) at starbucks” (how did she know that was my favorite)

So she picks me up in her car and we get there.

Suddenly I start thinking.

This girl probably hates me.. what if she decides to get revenge and leave me here without a ride ( so I start texting some friends and making plans just in case)

we get to talking.. and one thing leads to another.

soon shes asking if I mind if she grabs her phone charger at her house before dropping me off.. sure whatever ..

“hey wanna come inside for a sec?”

As soon as we enter her room, she starts making out with me- like im gods gift to the world.. i’ve never seen anything like it.

we ended up fucking for 3 hours.. (some of the best i’ve ever had)

After, she told me that she can never look at a coin the same way again.. after what I did to her.

She said she had been thinking about me for the past six months.. I decided to reward her for giving me a mind-blowing experience.

“Yeah me too.. I really like you”

What this made me realize is that.. Assuming you are making a choice between 2 reasonable things (not like should I live or should I die- thats fucked btw)

there are no real important decisions in life.. and therefore there are no mistakes. (aka.. it doesn’t matter)

Either way.. it doesn’t really matter what happens.

this concept is called outcome-independence.

This is so important.

Controlling how you look at things and how you react is huge.

(last chance to wake up and realize the truth before you go sleepwalking through life)

You basically make your own reality.

When you go out to the bar.. or anywhere for that matter – it is immediately obvious

who is happy with themselves and who is not just by the way people walk, talk, and

carry themselves.

If you aren’t happy as a person.. if there are things going wrong in your head (or life).. your game will suffer. We’ve all been there and had those days where you just think “what the fuck!?”

This is the hierarchy of needs- you can’t start to self-actualize unless you are safe and your basic physiological needs are met (aka starving kids won’t learn calculus).

Notice that ego/status is at top.. meaning that if you have status and you have an ego.. well your other needs must have been met somehow.

The thing is.. being selfish is important because you are the only person who truly cares about yourself.

In that way.. you are your best friend. (or your worst enemy.. depending on what you do)

I mean you would never screw yourself over or lie to yourself right? (a little self deception/cockiness is fine)

If you’re not feeling well.. figure out why and fix it.. If one of your drinking buddies was upset or feeling down.. you would cheer him up. “Hey man.. she totally wanted you last night.. I would kill for a girl to look at me like that”.. “really? thanks man..”

Same thing with yourself- if shits not going well.. take a break, figure it out, and relax yourself.

it seems so obvious but so few people actually do this.

Everybody is different.. for some guys happiness might mean eating a huge steak and cheese sub with an order of fries (fatasses.. lol)

just-kidding.. it doesn’t matter what makes you happy- just make sure you are happy with yourself and always looking out for number 1.

If someone makes you feel bad or always has a negative energy.. just avoid that person.

You should always be happy. I don’t mean smiling all day long but inside deep down.. content.. at peace.. they call it nirvana (or lights out) in philosophy.

no matter what happens.. always make yourself come first.. when shit hits the fan.. you will have nothing but yourself so don’t fucking forget that.

If you let your body slide and you don’t practice social skills because today you have a girlfriend and a small social circle.. I have news for you. What happens tomorrow when she dumps you? What happens when your friends move away or you stop hanging out with some of them…

a good rule about life is this: Nothing is forever.

so don’t take good things for granted.. and don’t expect anything to last..

the closest thing to forever is yourself. You aren’t going anywhere until you’re dead.

your house might get reposessed. your car might get crashed.. your girlfriend might leave you.. your friends might backstab you or rat you out when the cops bust them

but YOU.. your body.. your brains.. your image.. everything you know.. all your experiences.. WILL NEVER GO ANYWHERE. So please don’t neglect yourself or put others first. Don’t allow people to treat you badly or waste your time.. aka.. be selfish.. be an asshole..

if this doesn’t motivate you to get everything you’ve ever wanted- nothing will.

This is where my ego and attitude comes from.. its a way of life.. and i’ll tell you that it works.

Almost like a social mechanism that tells people.. yeah .. i’ve been there.. yeah i’ve done that.. yeah I can run through a burning building and survive because im amazing. What about you?

girls can definitely feel the edge

you’re the only one who can allow BULLSHIT to happen- its your fault if you put up with it.

ALWAYS BE Content. If you aren’t … figure out what the fuck is the problem.. and

make it work for you.. cause if things aren’t going good in your head.. your day is going to suck (perception)

this is why girls shit test.. they put some pressure on you to see if you can handle it.. that tells them how much of a man you really are.

It reveals how you feel about yourself.

A hot girl could easily have 10 guys so she has to pick the strongest/best man.

its amazing how much bullshit can disappear when you are in a good state of mind.

speaking of bullshit..

I have had a lot of bad days (usually external events or things that happen which completely piss me off like losing money gambling).. but one thing I can tell you is how I handle them.

I go from the worst possible bullshit happening to me (curse a few times.. get mad a little bit.. 10 minutes later im listening to music I forget all about it.. its very hard to get a reaction out of me.. I mean 10 minutes of anger and thats that for something that would consume another person’s mind for a month.

Sometimes its best to just let go of the pain.. the struggle.. the hardships.. the bullshit. Just let the inner peace take over.

What i’ve come to realize is that.. in the moment yeah you feel heated or you feel upset or you feel angry… but that is just an emotion. Its not right.. its not wrong.. its not god.. and it certainly isn’t everything. Later on… that emotion will pass but the toll it took on you will stay. If you get really angry and punch the wall (random example) your anger will go away but your hand will be broken later. This is why its not worth beating yourself up over stuff.

Everybody knows the basic concepts of game. State control and legendary self confidence is what separates the chickens from the eggs. If you go out feeling amazing.. the entire night will unfold beautifully. If you go out feeling like shit and thinking about your ex-girlfriend/bills/unemployment your energy will be negative, reserved, and downright unattractive.

next time you’re feeling down.. pull out a coin and take a chance…

heads [You do something that makes you happy] tails [you do something else that also makes you happy] and just flip it.