One mistake you cannot afford to make with women

congruence – Agreement among data or data sets.

DHV=displaying higher value to a girl

DLV=displaying lower value to a girl

Just a quick warning: this post is a bit of a ramble. If you understand the material presented, gaming will get MUCH easier and you will be able to spot problems you’ve never seen before.

I like to call this mistake “breaking congruency” and its a huge invisible speed bump. Lets say you’re going 80 miles an hour in your pickup and things are heating up.. you don’t notice that bump.. well lets just say everything is gonna turn into damage control. Pickup is an art much like building a house of cards.

the problem with pickup is that it takes a long time to build everything up but only 1 mistake to fuck it up..

why??

because when a girl finds something negative about you– the effect is going to be 10x stronger

why??

whatever a girl learns about you is multiplied by an accuracy factor.  Effect = (Dhv or Dlv) * accuracy factor.

Example: I tell a girl im a model with a smirk on my face and im wearing a free t shirt and pants from walmart. (btw never wear cheap clothes this is just an example)  Me being a model is a huge DHV but since she can look at my clothes and realize its not true the accuracy factor is going to be 0. so HugeDHV*zero=zero attraction. the girl might even be turned off if you come off as try hard.

Example 2: The girl sees me on the cover of a modeling magazine and I brush it off. This time its hugeDHV * 100% believability factor = HUGEDHV. holy fuck she thinks to herself … that guy is a model.. I need to fuck him.

Now heres the deal.. unless u are on magazine covers and preselect yourself like a motherfucker (I leave all kinds of shit in my car on purpose) most of your dhvs are going to come from a low accuracy factor ( talking to the girl/ texting/ routines /social circle etc). She isn’t going to believe 100% of what you say.. only a small amount of it. If you show enough cockiness eventually the girl is gonna be like okay this guy is really confident and your value will rise.

DHV’s are more likely to be lies because you WANT TO DHV yourself and she KNOWS THIS. Girls are aware of try-hards and fakes.

DLV’s are more likely to be the truth. If a girl finds out something really crappy about you- its likely true. I mean why the fuck would you make up something bad about yourself. If you tell a DLV story- its going to hit like a brick going through a paper window. (japan)

with that being said.. DLV’s weigh more heavily on pickup than DHV’s and we all know what happens when guys are low value. This means you cannot fucking expect to DHV all night,  DLV a few times and still come out on top.

DO NOT DLV.

DO NOT DLV.

DO NOT DLV.

DLV=NO SEX

here is the most important part of this post: If you understand nothing else.. understand this >>

BREAKING CONGRUENCE IS A MASSIVE DLV. it takes all of your DHV’s and makes them fake, shady, and unreliable. It is the nuclear bomb of major fuck ups.

On top of making your value drop, it makes the girl shit test you harder.. (which you will fail ..cause how are you supposed to pass a wicked hard shit test when you couldn’t even keep a congruent frame)

sometimes you aren’t sure what to do? Just ignore the girl.. Anything is better than a DLV. anything

DLV’s are like cancer… they have so many insidious effects. Your value as a human being is always in flux (to a girl)– even if you raise it say 10 points once she finds out something bad about you (-5pts DLV) you are going to lose even more credibility and those previous DHV’s you gave out are now worth less. so instead of going 10-5=5 you will likely go +10DHV -5DLV -5(dhv wasnt congruent).

Okay what the fuck is he talking about? Im sure some of you are a little bit lost here..

Fuckups cost lays. Displays of lower value cost you almost everything.. imagine a house of cards falling..

thats exactly what pickup is.. The smart game-guys stack the cards really carefully and make this illusion that they are amazing.

Eventually the cards will fall.

I’ve seen guys with massive value show a coupe DLV’s and they turn into nobodies.

Girl sees high value guy feels the same attraction as a guy who sees a .7 hip to waist ratio and big tits on a blonde tan model.

If you are gonna lower your value you might as well imagine that blonde model putting on 60 pounds and having a bad case of acne. Would you still wanna hit it? Well thats how the girl is gonna see you (if u go low value) (relative terms)

It is more important NOT TO FUCK UP than to try to accelerate or keep a pickup going. If you just stick around and have good value, you are going to get laid.. just dont fuck it up. Its like if you have a gun pointed at the banker and he is putting money in a bag all u gotta do is take the money and leave.. just don’t fuck it up by trying to get into the vault while the police come and bust your ass.

Guys think they are clever by giving girls vague answers and being mysterious.. Things like its complicated. That goes under the category of [Just Don't fuck up] game.

If you understand this picture, you understand the world. Not just game.. the entire fucking world is based on perception.

who else could construct so much bullshit and make it look believable.. this is what you’re up against when you’re playing the game.

this is why you must purposefully preselect and do all kinds of shit for yourself.. in a smart way to make it seem un intentional.. NEVER brag

More examples: The whole entire night is going perfectly- the girl comes back to your place.. she walks in but your place is so sloppy that she is thinking to herself “holy fuck girls definitely don’t come here..something is wrong with this guy” This doubt will basically make you look like a fake.. All that high value you had is going to vanish since it wasn’t real. LJBF or [insert excuse here] will follow. congrats on losing the lay.

Girls are experts at testing congruency.. Whenever you tell a girl something- she will screen it. This is why she better believe 100% that you mean it. In other words, don’t ever say something and not follow through.. If you tell a girl you’re done with her and you break up only to get back together a month later.. thats breaking a strong congruent frame. Breaking the rules of game = suffer the penalties.

Everything stacks too.. so if you’ve got this bad boy image and somebody disses you and you do nothing- well there goes your image..

Hidden Examples:

Girl calls or texts you on thu/fri/sat to make plans  (no advance notice)

if you pickup/reply/agree you just broke congruence. I mean what high value dude would have nothing going on..?

Girl does something inappropriate and you forgive her.. (aka flakes on you and you call her again.. or send her a facebook msg)

shes gonna immediately realize that what you did is not congruent to a high value guy.. therefore you must not be high value..

I’ve purposefully field tested just how badly a CB (congruence break- not cockblock) can affect game.

There was some 6 all over me at the bar on Wednesday.. she was basically closing me.. well I got her phone number and went to a different area of the bar. We start texting back and forth and its like one to one. All of a sudden I sent her some stupid text followed by 2-3 more stupid texts before she replied. I had all the messages saved as drafts and just send them 15-20 seconds one after another to make this look good (This was on purpose– I was breaking textgamerules101 just to see if my looks and attitude could withstand the brutal pressure of a CB. ) Me and a friend actually had a bet on this…

This girl.. literally just ignored me. Out of nowhere.. a fucking six just ignored me. I was like..LOL u gotta be kidding me. one minute shes on my nuts ready to go.. asking me where my place is and if I wanted to go listen to [my favorite music] at her house. I broke congruence.. and she immediately lost 90% of her attraction for me. My point is that some of you are doin this with 8′s and shit. ughh

Note: I really would rather have not slept with this girl.. the point of the story is.. you can imagine how much attraction I HAD with her.. thats how much attraction we would all KILL TO HAVE from 8′s and up. 1 simple congruence break (3 texts in a row showing neediness, lack of social awareness, lack of preselection, etc) was enough to topple the house of cards.

just imagine.

Her.

Me.

Her.

Me.

Her.

me.

me.

me.

radio silence….  Lol

Lack of congruency… costing guys lays in ways they never imagined